Couples Counseling

Are you sensing a distance in your relationship that never before existed?  Perhaps a new job, family, or exterior stress has placed a damper on the intimacy and closeness that you and your partner once had.  Lack of communication is one of the most common warning signs, and it causes increased fear with one or sometimes both partners that a relationship won't last.  Is lack of acknowledgment of your feelings left you feeling discouraged, sad, or even worse, that your opinions don't even matter?

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There is a high likelihood that your partner may be feeling the same way, and is just as committed to staying together as you are, but hasn't found the right time or right way to mention their specific feelings.  You might both have an equal interest in the repair of your relationship, but if a breach of trust or recent conflict has clouded the situation beyond the point of communication, it can become increasingly difficult to know how to approach repairing the relationship.  Maybe you've heard the old saying "don't go to bed angry", so you approached your partner too quickly before they had a chance to fully understand the situation and they haven't even formulated an opinion yet.  Even actions with the purest of intentions can sometimes cause resentment if a person is not ready for the initial discussion.  A sense of safety, closeness, and respect is imperative to learning to connect and communicate more honestly and openly with one's spouse or partner.   

Challenges Are Natural and Normal

It is a universal truth that humans long for connection.  When we feel supported and connected in a meaningful, deep way, we feel as though we can deal with any challenge.  When one does not feel that deep connection to a partner, it can be a scary and downright bewildering experience.  The good news is that struggles are a normal and natural part of being in a relationship.  Many of us have never learned to deal with our own feelings, and misunderstandings can occur when another's feelings and ambitions are thrown into the mix.  We must understand how to be honest and vulnerable with ourselves so that we can be such a way with others. 

​Has an infidelity caused a break in trust in your relationship?  Maybe the work/spouse/children balance is being weighed too heavily on one end, but economic needs aren't allowing for adjustment for a lengthy period of time.  This lack of an "endpoint" to one's day to day grind, combined with taking care of children can leave both sides of a relationship exhausted and worried about an eventual collapse - meaning separation or divorce, if a solution is not found.  Couples therapy addresses all of the above with proven techniques to re-open the lines of communication and develop good habits that will promote healing and progression back down the right path.    

Couples Counseling Can be the First Step to a Secure, Healthy Relationship

A specially trained third party can inject new ideas and proven methods to overcome existing obstacles or past transgressions in your romantic relationship.  Imagine being able to confidently move forward with an entire new tool box of methods to aid in your growth as a couple.  Lasting and meaningful change is Dr. Reilly's goal, which is achieved by providing a safe and comforting space where surface level issues are discussed in order to access the deeper roots of conflict occurring within a relationship.  By exposing negative patterns in one's relationship, adjustments can be made and the recurring negative patterns can be replaced with communication-based positive methods of conflict resolution.  

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